He added: “I purposely didn’t change the pronouns in Dancing On My Own, so that it was from a gay man’s perspective. “I’ve tried to write in a way that transcends beyond just sexuality and is more about letting go of our fear and trusting the people around us.” Not just specifically for sexuality, but for people who are scared of things in their life. “Now I’m in that privileged position where I can write about my issues and how I felt, which is hopefully a nice way of connecting with other people and maybe to be that voice that they need. “I trusted a couple of my friends at the time and I was abandoned for it so I always related talking about my sexuality as a barrier, and that I would lose friends, which is awful. The singer has faced some serious challenges in his lifetime – from wrestling with his sexuality to having his heart broken.Ĭalum said: “When I was a young lad, I struggled to try and understand it myself. Here it is in his own words in an interview in the Scottish Sun: Ok, to this of you who have said there’s nothing gay or bi, he’s sparking from the woman’s POV, or he’s not the gay on his gf is. if it wasn’t for this song i would’ve never realised that my life was supposed to be different. They were waiting for me in the back of my mind hurting, trying so hard to convince me to come back but failing.Īt that moment it hit me, i knew what i had to do and the very next day i packed my things and left and my life has turned around for the better. standing there waiting for me, watching me be with him and live for him.
The way i interpreted it was that the real me, the me i was supposed to be, was singing to both my bf and i. When i first heard this song i was high on mdma laying in bed by myself waiting for him to come home. Not eating anything, doing drugs and basically just living for him and doing what he wanted me to and i felt trapped and like i couldn’t go home.
I was living at his parents house, not seeing my family or friends or doing anything i enjoyed. I was in a very bad living situation with my ex bf.